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Page 1 of 2 This parent/youth meeting is built around this video provided by the organizaiton, Parents. The Anti- Drug. The videocan be found at http://www.theantidrug.com/advice/chronicles-home.aspx.
Prior to the Meeting
1. Copy enough question sheets for every teen and every parent (below). Print and copy enough "Action Items" for every parent. If you want, you can add your own action items to the good list prepared the "Parents: The Anti-Drug" people. Print enough drug lingo lists for every parent. Go to this website http://www.whitehousedrugpolicy.gov/streetterms/ and prepare a handout with the most common names. Include the website address also.
2. Prepare your leaders for their small group times. Alert them to two areas which may divert the goal of this meeting. This is not a discussion about drug and alcohol prevention but of communication. What happens at parties may come up in conversation but we are not here to make up rules about drugs and alcohol. The other "rabbit trail" that may divert the goal is to talk about how the culture is different for teens now than it was when the parents were growing up. That can be a never-ending discussion and will not serve a purpose in the limited-time that you have. Prepare your leaders to have an estimated 45 minutes to get through the questions and make the idea list. The Actual Meeting
1. Introduction: Explain that this is so much more than a video about drug and alcohol prevention. This is a video that shows the communication gap between the parent and teen.
2. Say to the parents: This short video is going to disturb you greatly. You are going to feel like you don't know what you are doing and can't possibly know what you are doing. This may further increase your already fragile confidence.
3. Say to the teens: This short video is going to expose the truth of the double life you are familiar with. It's a double life that is part of the normal life as a teen. But now that it has been exposed, you have an opportunity. Think about what changes you would like to make to close this communication gap?
4. View the video together.
5. Let the uncomfortable chuckles and groans settle in the room for a bit before you speak.
6. Ask the entire group to share one-word adjectives as to what they are thinking right now. Both the parents and the teens should share. List those on a whiteboard.
7. Divide the group into a parent group led by another parent who has leadership abilities. And a teen group with yourself taking the leadership. If the groups are larger than 10, divide into smaller groups and find more leaders.
8. Give each group enough time to go over the prepared questions.
9. Bring the groups back together.
10. Show the video again. It's short and it will allow everyone to reflect again on the truths that are exposed-but this time with new insights.
11. Direct everyone's attention back to the whiteboard list of adjectives. Ask if after this discussion if there are any adjectives that can be erased from the whiteboard.
12. Close in a prayer time that addresses the adjectives that are left.
13. The meeting is over. Your work is not. After the Meeting Project
Gather the list of practical ideas from all the groups. Over the next few days, write up a resource including all of these ideas from all of the groups. Print it and hand it out the next Sunday. Put it on your website. Pdf it so it can be downloaded. Make copies for the information table. Remind everyone (including everyone in the church family) of this resource for the next year. Find community information outlets for this resource. Send it to FamilyBasedYouthMinistry.org. You've got something very valuable here. Discussion Questions
Parent Questions:
1. Prior to watching this video, did you think your teen really tells you what's going on in his/her life?
2. How did you feel when you heard these teens talk about what they actually tell their parents?
3. Do you think your teen has been to a party where drinking or drugs have been present or has been exposed to other pressures that are against your moral wishes for them?
4. What do you know about your teen's music?
5. Can you get to your teen's MySpace or Facebook page?
6. How many street names for drugs can you name?
7. What are practical ways you can close this communication gap? Open up the group to let parents pass on what they've learned (often the hard way) with other parents. Have the leader make a good list of these practical ideas.
8. Handout the Action Items pdf that follows the video to the parents and briefly cover why this is a piece of paper not to lose. Teen Questions
1. Have your parents talked to you about drugs and alcohol?
2. What did they actually tell you?
3. When asked, have you ever lied to your parent?
4. Why is there this communication gap between what parents think they know they are doing and the reality of what you know?
5. Does your parent know what it is like to be a teen today? Why or why not?
6. What did you think of the mom talking about her teen "multi-tasking?" Is that a big deal? Why do parents think it's a big deal?
7. Do your friends put pressure on you? (The responses here are going to be wide open with some untruthful answers. Try not to correct their unrealities and let everyone get a chance to voice what they think this reality is.)
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